As a girl found the strength to study, live together and become more confident
Case work with a girl on the topic of continuing studies in graduate school…🎓
Initially, the request sounded like a lack of understanding where to apply, whether to stay in her hometown or go to more prestigious, socially imposed cities… We looked at the mini-diagnostic to decide which choice to make… But at this stage, the obstacle was the fear of leaving home far from her mother… It was as if her mother could solve any problem, but without her, it was unclear… After fixing the symptom of 'scared to leave home,' the diagnostic field sounded completely different… The assumed cities for further study sounded somehow unimportant… as if the essence was not even in them… A focus on the beloved person appeared, and there was complete chaos and confusion… If he leaves (and he is too smart to bury his talent in his hometown), then the relationship will end, and there will be a breakup in any case.
Going with him, but what if I don't need to go… and it seemed that there were no options to resolve the situation so that everything could turn out at least somewhat successfully, and there could not be any.
We did a diagnostic with differences (about losing everything that had not yet started, about broken femininity, which either fades or tries to survive necessarily alone…) As a result of working through the differences from the diagnostic - the relationship with her mother became closer and calmer 🤗 healthy autonomy and the courage to take adult steps appeared 💪 - the girl became much more confident in herself, after fixing the first symptom, she enrolled in driving school, which she had wanted for 4 years but was very afraid of, so she postponed it, now she is at the stage of taking the final exam… 🔥 - the focus on looking specifically for prestigious opportunities fell away, graduate school sounds somehow simple, not the final, but a step in continuing education, which does not need to be urgent and life-changing, it can be calmly decided… 💫 - she realized how she projected her vision and desires onto the young man… now there is more trust, he is an adult himself, he will decide what is best for him, and his choice cannot affect their strong relationship ❤️ - a new thing appeared in the M/F relationship – the desire to live together, and not just dream about it and plan, but in reality, the process of finding housing has started… And here, after 4 months, a great news 🔥 both successfully enrolled in graduate school, renovated the apartment and started living together ❤️❤️❤️
Going with him, but what if I don't need to go… and it seemed that there were no options to resolve the situation so that everything could turn out at least somewhat successfully, and there could not be any.
We did a diagnostic with differences (about losing everything that had not yet started, about broken femininity, which either fades or tries to survive necessarily alone…) As a result of working through the differences from the diagnostic - the relationship with her mother became closer and calmer 🤗 healthy autonomy and the courage to take adult steps appeared 💪 - the girl became much more confident in herself, after fixing the first symptom, she enrolled in driving school, which she had wanted for 4 years but was very afraid of, so she postponed it, now she is at the stage of taking the final exam… 🔥 - the focus on looking specifically for prestigious opportunities fell away, graduate school sounds somehow simple, not the final, but a step in continuing education, which does not need to be urgent and life-changing, it can be calmly decided… 💫 - she realized how she projected her vision and desires onto the young man… now there is more trust, he is an adult himself, he will decide what is best for him, and his choice cannot affect their strong relationship ❤️ - a new thing appeared in the M/F relationship – the desire to live together, and not just dream about it and plan, but in reality, the process of finding housing has started… And here, after 4 months, a great news 🔥 both successfully enrolled in graduate school, renovated the apartment and started living together ❤️❤️❤️
Case work with a girl on the topic of continuing studies in graduate school…🎓
Initially, the request sounded like a lack of understanding where to apply, whether to stay in her hometown or go to more prestigious, socially imposed cities… We looked at the mini-diagnostic to decide which choice to make… But at this stage, the obstacle was the fear of leaving home far from her mother… It was as if her mother could solve any problem, but without her, it was unclear… After fixing the symptom of 'scared to leave home,' the diagnostic field sounded completely different… The assumed cities for further study sounded somehow unimportant… as if the essence was not even in them… A focus on the beloved person appeared, and there was complete chaos and confusion… If he leaves (and he is too smart to bury his talent in his hometown), then the relationship will end, and there will be a breakup in any case.
Going with him, but what if I don't need to go… and it seemed that there were no options to resolve the situation so that everything could turn out at least somewhat successfully, and there could not be any.
Going with him, but what if I don't need to go… and it seemed that there were no options to resolve the situation so that everything could turn out at least somewhat successfully, and there could not be any.